2018 friendships

I promised to share what I’ve learned about friendships this year_well I don’t know what to say but it killed the belief I had about friends.

Firstly I’ve learned to always address things that get to me, rather than avoiding them simply because I don’t want to ruin my friendship. A friendship that bottles everything gets easily broken because one stupid fallout becomes affected by all the other bottled issues. It’s always better to sit your friends down and pour out all that bothers you.

That’s how matured friendships sail smoothly____

The most important thing I’ve learned about friendships is respect, most friends don’t respect each other, space, time, family, partner, hustle....I can go on_ I never realized this until people around me, that ain’t even close to me pointed out a few things. I’ve got a big heart, don’t blame me🙆🏾‍♀️.

This message from one of the people I care about kept me woke and broken for the longest time_ it just hurts when people say such things😪it makes one feel like they are ...I don’t even have the words to express how this made me feel, I still breakdown when I think about all the things she said, sadly I can count more than 10 people who have said something similar but never really had the guts to be so bold about it

I honestly saw nothing wrong , even now I don’t. I still believe that it would all be in the guys hands to avoid being in the same space as his girlfriends friends, I mean that’s common sense_Though what I gathered from this messages was that friends should somehow respect themselves around a friends bae🤷🏻‍♀️...I don’t how but apparently it’s the right thing to do...Though now hehe I ain’t about allowing my friends and boyfriend to have a friendship ANYMORE because that’s when people start feeling comfortable and see nothing wrong when there’s lack of respect. I‘ll be honest, I’m one that allows my friends to get used to my partner, ensure they arrive home safe whether taken by my partner or not, my partner would have all my friends numbers😳, when there’s a fight they’d be contacted, all things that open a way for anything to happen or some sort of “comfort”. I’d even be cool with them driving together in my absence __I know right, am sure you saying this girl is crazy, not at all_I’m just too trusting. But I learned this the hard way, I wouldn’t even want to say how.......

My advise to hun's like me, your friends and partner ain’t friends, should never be and don’t play being a good friend and asking bae to ensure your friends are always safe after groove, it’s none of his responsibility, you are his and that’s it!...

I have to share this before I tell you what happened between “besti and I”.

So I have this other amazing friend, shuuuu without her I wouldn’t understand this thing about respect. So this other day we went out and she wore quite a short skirt and guy had to come fetch me, she was like “friend I need a jacket to cover myself when I get out” I laughed and said for what Manje? and she said I’m just respecting your partner and I expect you to do the same and stop being naive , you’ll never know what these guys are thinking. Being me, I said learn to trust your partners babes😂__ I remember blushing and I just couldn’t stop staring at her, the way she behaves and that kind of mentality that I relate to, was all I needed from a friend_ so_ Be mindful of your circle, it says a lot about you.

EVEN SQUAD GOALS FIGHT!!!

Actually........ I am not ready to say what happened between the “besties” all I can say is that we human, we fight, we grow, priorities change and we meet new people. If you can relax on the D.M’s or same questions about “what happened between you and ....” I think we shall all be happy. When the time is perfecto all things will fall into place.

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”

Learn to love your friends, even from a distance.