back at it///

Wooo it’s good to be back _ I hope y’all kicked in the new year with a bang. I know it’s late but it’s still relevant it’s only the second month. Eey I was still stepping in 2019... blogging needs proper emotions and my emotions were allll over_anyway I wish you a great year ahead and continue working hard and silently so.

But it’s good to be back.

I’ve been blogging in my mind especially things that have been happening around me or on social media.

A lot of women have been sending me dm’s about how their footballer boyfriends have wronged them, bana beso I’m no expert but we all have different life challenges and experiences. I think when you genuinely fall inlove with a person and not what he does you would have a better perspective on life or the relationship _ I know some would relate... So I did a Q and A this week and one question really got to me_somebody asked me what is it like to date a footballer_liiikee, I don’t think there’s anything specific_well that made me realize that there’s women who actually date or would like to date the title and not the person and those are the same people that find themselves miserable or find themselves in a situation where they compromise so much even hurting the next person.

I always wanted to touch on what the “the queen” portrays about footballers _ I don’t follow much but that guy is a typical one... he gives you light on most of the things they actually do, how they forget someone that was down and up with them over a fling but reality is any guy could do that, it doesn’t matter the profession, they really not all the same. It’s also common to find that as the girlfriend or wife you constantly have to push them to grow and invest, but don’t realize that you investing in someones growth and wealth not yours then tomorrow they leave you. They leave you with Nah-thing whereas you were used to a certain lifestyle that you couldn’t build for yourself and when they leave, they leave with it!

When you meet someone it’s important to be firm about what you expect from them. I believe in the old way my mama taught me huri once you ask a men to do things for you, you give him the liberty to control your life. Soo baby girl work hard so no men can feel entitled over your life, when they leave you, life goes on normally. NEVER CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE BASED ON WHO YOU ARE INLOVE WITH COZZZ LOVE ALSO FADES AWAY....

I know people that left home and lived with their partner , got used to a certain lifestyle and when they leave them its back to kasi_and the hood life, mun you know it. hehe many ask why I never moved in with bae _ I get so confused, for what? Then after 6months things go bad I come back home, shuwi I’d never put myself through that...papa says he must put a ring on it before ke phapa!! No ring -means my life and dreams still go on and I work hard so I move in with my pretty self *bigsmile*

Back to Thabiso , remember I said his the typical one_ I know some that take rape as a normal thing to do, it’s so sad that they even get away with it. Eeeyi they get away with everything, jail, rape, maintenance, domestic violence; I MEAN EVERYTHING Its so sad that many women are being abused by these guys, I don’t know if it’s in their nature but everything is normal to them 🤦🏽‍♀️this one is sensitive , I won’t dwell on it today.

There’s so much that goes on but too deep for me to share shem yaz, people will hate me. Who knows though _I might be triggered by another question to share more haha.